008. Why Your Shoulders Say Yes When You Mean No
- Arielle Schmidt
- Dec 9
- 2 min read
How Boundaries, Burnout, and the Large Intestine Meridian Are More Connected Than You Think
Ever feel your shoulders creeping up toward your ears……after saying "yes" to something you really didn’t want to do?
That clenching? That tightness? That subtle weight on your neck and upper back?
It might not be just poor posture or stress. It might be your body’s way of screaming what your voice couldn’t say:
“No.”
The Body Doesn’t Lie
At Tranquility Rising, we work with a system of 12 traditional meridian lines used in Chinese Medicine. These energetic highways correspond to specific organ systems and emotional patterns.
One of the most common meridians we see show up in session is the Large Intestine Meridian—which runs through the arms, shoulders, neck, and jaw.
Physically, this meridian is responsible for letting go of waste. Emotionally, it's about the same thing:
Letting go of what no longer serves you—especially other people’s expectations.
When this meridian is blocked or overworked, you might feel:
Chronic tension in your shoulders or neck
Jaw tightness or clenching
Difficulty expressing needs or saying “no”
A pattern of people-pleasing
Frustration that shows up after a boundary is crossed (especially by yourself)
When Your Body Sets Boundaries Before You Do
So many of us were never taught how to set boundaries without guilt.We were praised for being agreeable, easygoing, and helpful—even at our own expense.
But the body remembers.And when you override your “no” long enough, the body will begin to speak up for you.
Shoulders lock.Throat tightens.Digestive issues flare up.And eventually, burnout creeps in.
Thai Yoga Therapy: Releasing the “Yes” That Was Never Yours
In our sessions, we often focus on unblocking the Large Intestine Meridian through a combination of guided movement, compression, and stretching. But we don’t stop at the physical layer.
We ask the deeper questions:
Where are you holding onto pressure to please?
Whose “yes” are you still carrying?
What part of you learned that your needs were too much?
As we work along the meridian, clients often experience a softening—not just in their muscles, but in their inner narrative. It’s a chance to reclaim your no and rediscover your truth without shame or explanation.
Boundaries Aren’t Walls. They’re Filters.
They let the right things in and keep the draining things out.They are an act of care—not just for others, but for yourself.
When your shoulders finally relax…When your breath returns to your belly…When your “no” comes out clearly and unapologetically…
That’s not resistance. That’s realignment.
Ready to Reconnect?
If your body is holding the weight of unspoken boundaries, we’re here to help you listen, release, and restore balance—gently and at your own pace.
We offer:
New Client Sessions (2.5 hours of full-body and emotional assessment + elemental coaching)
Reset Protocol – a 7-session journey to shift chronic patterns
Integration Packages – 6 flexible sessions to use over 6 months at your pace
Let your “no” live in your body as clearly as your “yes.”We’re here when you’re ready.










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